Just saw someone proclaiming “no pronouns” in that person’s bio. I guess that’s ok, too, of course. I just wonder: is it meant as I took it, as an attempt to be referred to more directly, or is it a passive aggressive “silly pronouns” thing?

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I have no (public) pronouns. I don’t declare ‘no pronouns’ - but that doesn’t change that I have no (public) pronouns. And no, it is not passive-aggressive. It’s declaring that my pronouns are mine - and nothing to do with you - because that’s what I choose.

Much in the same way that I may or may not choose to tell you a whole range of other things about me, including - but not exclusively:

• whether I am (or am not) pregnant
  
• my religious beliefs (or lack thereof)
  
• my political affiliations
  
• my relationship status
  
• my mental or physical health
  
• my financial circumstances
  
• my educational background
  
• my family structure
  
• my neurodiversity
  
• my trauma history
  
• my vaccination status
  
• my work history
  
• where I’m actually from
  
• whether I have children
  
• my disability status
  

One question.

When did my refusal to perform my identity become your issue?

My pronouns are mine. My story is mine. You get what I choose to share. Nothing more, nothing less.

That all said - if you want to declare your pronouns - all for it. You should.

Too aggressive? Not ‘passive’ enough?

Vive la différence.