@writingslowly

Yes - and ...

The group of 150 or so is not that big.

I KNOW the person. We haven't met in the flesh - have on Zoom and the spouse I have met IRL.

I am in New Zealand - but a Brit that has spent a long time in California.

The other person is an intelligent American from the North East states - living in the UK.

The group is primarily UK oriented.

In so many ways it is no big deal. Talk about first world problems! And it isn't that singular issue - but rather a broader thought - that IF someone I know can take umbrage at my throwaway joke and get offended (personally - or 'on behalf of') .. in a different space it could be a lot worse.

Maybe it's me - but then - 🖇️ maybe not