If you want endless repetition (in your life), see a lot of different people. If you want infinite variety, stay with one.
What happens when you date is you run all your best moves and tell all your best stories โ and in a way, that routine is a method for falling in love with yourself over and over.
You canโt do that with a longtime mate because he knows all that old material. With a long relationship, things die then are rekindled, and that shared process of rebirth deepens the love. Itโs hard work, though, and a lot of people run at the first sign of trouble. Youโre with this person, and suddenly you look like an asshole to them or they look like an asshole to you โ itโs unpleasant, but if you can get through it you get closer and you learn a way of loving thatโs different from the neurotic love enshrined in movies. Itโs warmer and has more padding to it.
Endless Repetition or Infinite Variety?